Tuesday, November 29, 2016

Lean on me...

We sing along to this song, but what does it really mean?

We need to lean on each other and we need to lean on God.  For those who do not understand the benefits of a relationship with God, they can lean on us and we can take all of it to God.  He wants us to lean on Him.  We need to lean on Him.

I dropped my 14-year-old off at a funeral today for one of her friends.  It was very hard to leave her and drive away.  I saw the tears on her friends' faces.  I saw the tight hugs through the passenger side window as I pulled away.  I saw the road through my own tears and I headed home.  I didn't want to leave her, but she needed her friends more than her mom.

Everyone grieves in a different way.  Teens grieve differently than adults.  I learned this through the three deaths that my two daughters have experienced with their friends in the past 5 years.  Yes - I have too much experience with this. But I have learned too.

I learned not to ask 'why'.  There is no answer. 
I learned that grief is individual. 
I learned that each person and each situation is unique. 
I learned that there is no formula. 

I learned to ask for help. And strength. And guidance. 

This is how we lean on God.  This is how we allow others to lean on us.

Wednesday, September 30, 2015

Breathe easy...

It is easy to take the little things for granted. Or maybe it is the big things we take for granted. 

Anything that we see, touch or experience every day is at risk of being taken for granted. This might be the people in our lives, the food on our table or even our health. 

It is when those people or things are missing that we remember to be thankful. 

I am on day 3 of a "man cold". This one really knocked me out. Last night, I said I just wanted to take a breath without pain. Today. I did that. Now, I remember to be thankful for my health. 

Take a deep breath...exhale. Repeat. Enjoy. 

Saturday, September 19, 2015

Mrs. Fixit...

"In our rush to fix, to help, to solve, most of us never pause to wonder if we are doing the right thing. Because after all, how could trying to help someone be wrong?"

I've been binge-watching a cute Canadian TV show on Netflix. It is about somebody who travels back in time to undo the biggest regrets of her life, one at a time. In the process, she learns more about herself and becomes better-equipped to tackle her current-day fears.  It also becomes obvious after a few episodes that many of the situations she regrets were outside of her control in the first place. 

The quote that opened this post was taken from the second season.  When I heard it, I had to pause, rewind and record it. It was a revelation to me a few years ago. I now pass it on to you with this addendum:  if we keep fixing stuff for others, we are taking away their opportunity to learn for themselves. 


Friday, February 13, 2015

Life is not too short...

When people say life is too short, what are they really saying?  Perhaps it is that we don't know how long life will be. For each person, the number of years, months, days or hours - even minutes is different. It is not that life is too short, it is that we don't know how long (or short) it will be. 

For every minute, hour, day or year, be thankful for the life you have. You are here for a reason. Embrace your time and live your life the way God intended. 

Monday, January 26, 2015

God's Plan...

It is said so often that it has become cliche. "God has a plan for you", "Everything happens for a reason". 

The part we sometimes forget is that we may never know God's plan. We may never know the good that happened in the world because of our suffering.  We need to trust and have faith that all the pieces will fit together, even if we do not know how or why. 

My daughter lost a very good friend today. He was 16 years old and a very strong hockey player. He was the kind of person you want your daughter to have as a friend. He was an example for everyone.  At first, we might as why this has to happen. People might even say he fulfilled his purpose on Earth (another cliche). 

I wonder how many lives he touched in his 16 years. I wonder how many lives are touched by his passing. I wonder how this event will shape the futures of the friends he left behind. 

And yes, the difficult times do make us stronger.  Another cliche, but it is the truth. 

Sunday, January 18, 2015

Put the phone down...

I posted a long time ago about "God in the bathroom". I always seemed to hear God's voice when I took a break. Not only in the bathroom, but during a walk by the lake or a drive to work in silence. 

I haven't noticed His voice much lately. Perhaps because my walks include Blutooth earbuds, the drives include whatever radio station happens to be tuned in and, well, the phone seems accompany me just about everywhere. 

Last night, I was spending quality time with my daughter as she worked on a sewing project. We were both silent while she focused on her stiching and I tried to find a high-scoring combination on Words with Friends. The gentle reminder came from her. "Mom. Put the phone down. Here, why don't you make one of these too."  We talked. We laughed. We found what worked and didn't work with our projects. We did have quality time. 

Perhaps, I am not hearing God's voice as often because I am busy on my phone.

Saturday, January 10, 2015

One Strong Love Song...

This one is not my title, nor was it written by me. But I believe the original source to be the same. When God inspires, He sends the same message to all of us.  Love. 

Please read the text and listen to this song that was written by my friend's son.