Wednesday, December 06, 2017

Stay Tuned...

Have you ever become so absorbed in a TV show, that you lost track of time?  Binge-watching anyone?  Think back to before Netflix when you watched TV on a weekly basis.  Didn't you hate to see those dreaded words on the screen?  To be Continued...

You had to wait an entire week, or maybe longer, before you could see what happens next!  Life is exactly like that.  It would be cool to soar through time and see what happens later so we can be a little more settled in the now - especially during difficult times.  But how does that make us grow?

Looking back on difficult times, we might say "It was tough at the time and I didn't realize how much I would grow".  What if we look at our current situation - whether it is difficult or fantastic - and say, "I wonder what is coming next".

We don't know the future.  We can't know the future.  But, we can look at our current path and know that something is coming...Stay Tuned

Saturday, March 18, 2017

The 'Permission' bracelet...

Here I am, a little over a week after attending an event where the speaker talked about 'giving God permission'.  This is not a new concept to me.  I first heard this phrase many years ago when the Companions of the Cross became a part of our parish.  This is one of the main guiding principles so it is mentioned often.  This time, there was a gift for anyone who wished to take one.  It was those rubber bracelets that are often used as fundraisers for charities.  I was hesitant in taking the bracelet because I didn't feel that I was ready to make that leap and truly give God permission.  But, I took one anyway because it seemed like a good first step.

For the past week, I notice the bracelet on my wrist as soon as I wake up and it reminds me to say a prayer to start my day.  I had gotten out of this habit for a long time.  Things were going well with my family and I love my job so prayer became one of those 'if I have time' exercises. 

In the past week, it is like I have reconnected with an old friend.  I am seeing changes in my own heart and my focus is different.  This week presented its own challenges, but I found myself looking at the bracelet and trusting that things would work out.  The worry was still there, but there was comfort when I was reminded to trust.

Through my many prayers this week, I did promise to share the story and I will.  But this is a simple note to show that a piece of rubber on my wrist can act as a hug from God.

Tuesday, November 29, 2016

Lean on me...

We sing along to this song, but what does it really mean?

We need to lean on each other and we need to lean on God.  For those who do not understand the benefits of a relationship with God, they can lean on us and we can take all of it to God.  He wants us to lean on Him.  We need to lean on Him.

I dropped my 14-year-old off at a funeral today for one of her friends.  It was very hard to leave her and drive away.  I saw the tears on her friends' faces.  I saw the tight hugs through the passenger side window as I pulled away.  I saw the road through my own tears and I headed home.  I didn't want to leave her, but she needed her friends more than her mom.

Everyone grieves in a different way.  Teens grieve differently than adults.  I learned this through the three deaths that my two daughters have experienced with their friends in the past 5 years.  Yes - I have too much experience with this. But I have learned too.

I learned not to ask 'why'.  There is no answer. 
I learned that grief is individual. 
I learned that each person and each situation is unique. 
I learned that there is no formula. 

I learned to ask for help. And strength. And guidance. 

This is how we lean on God.  This is how we allow others to lean on us.

Wednesday, September 30, 2015

Breathe easy...

It is easy to take the little things for granted. Or maybe it is the big things we take for granted. 

Anything that we see, touch or experience every day is at risk of being taken for granted. This might be the people in our lives, the food on our table or even our health. 

It is when those people or things are missing that we remember to be thankful. 

I am on day 3 of a "man cold". This one really knocked me out. Last night, I said I just wanted to take a breath without pain. Today. I did that. Now, I remember to be thankful for my health. 

Take a deep breath...exhale. Repeat. Enjoy. 

Saturday, September 19, 2015

Mrs. Fixit...

"In our rush to fix, to help, to solve, most of us never pause to wonder if we are doing the right thing. Because after all, how could trying to help someone be wrong?"

I've been binge-watching a cute Canadian TV show on Netflix. It is about somebody who travels back in time to undo the biggest regrets of her life, one at a time. In the process, she learns more about herself and becomes better-equipped to tackle her current-day fears.  It also becomes obvious after a few episodes that many of the situations she regrets were outside of her control in the first place. 

The quote that opened this post was taken from the second season.  When I heard it, I had to pause, rewind and record it. It was a revelation to me a few years ago. I now pass it on to you with this addendum:  if we keep fixing stuff for others, we are taking away their opportunity to learn for themselves. 

Friday, February 13, 2015

Life is not too short...

When people say life is too short, what are they really saying?  Perhaps it is that we don't know how long life will be. For each person, the number of years, months, days or hours - even minutes is different. It is not that life is too short, it is that we don't know how long (or short) it will be. 

For every minute, hour, day or year, be thankful for the life you have. You are here for a reason. Embrace your time and live your life the way God intended. 

Monday, January 26, 2015

God's Plan...

It is said so often that it has become cliche. "God has a plan for you", "Everything happens for a reason". 

The part we sometimes forget is that we may never know God's plan. We may never know the good that happened in the world because of our suffering.  We need to trust and have faith that all the pieces will fit together, even if we do not know how or why. 

My daughter lost a very good friend today. He was 16 years old and a very strong hockey player. He was the kind of person you want your daughter to have as a friend. He was an example for everyone.  At first, we might as why this has to happen. People might even say he fulfilled his purpose on Earth (another cliche). 

I wonder how many lives he touched in his 16 years. I wonder how many lives are touched by his passing. I wonder how this event will shape the futures of the friends he left behind. 

And yes, the difficult times do make us stronger.  Another cliche, but it is the truth.